Dating can create negative feelings, but you have the power to put a positive spin on your romantic life through intentional dating strategies and self-care practices that fit your introverted self. It is essential to pick a time and environment that allow you to thrive and feel comfortable. Are you ready to create a dramatic impression on your partner? No more shielding yourself behind the message inbox. Your date is just another who happens to be a little more talkative than you. Although it may be true that you are unskilled at talking about the weather or the people around you, there are things you talk about (at length! For example, the news article you read last week on technological advancements, or God particles, or even the birth of the universe.Give them a read, breathe deeply and think positive. Every date has a prelude, where you make first contact, swap small-talk and decide whether to take the next step.Nowadays, much of this stage takes place online, which is good news for shy people. Don’t be completely passive about where to meet and when.
At its heart, shyness is the fear of negative judgment, while introverts simply prefer quiet, low-key environments.
You may experience the internal conflict between the desire to connect in romantic and social ways and the craving for time alone.
You may be so exhausted from the work week that spending your weekends dating isn’t leading to anything satisfying.
Often introverts are also pleasers, and they will do what they think is asked of them even if they suffer. If you have to ask repeatetly for romantic gestures or to be included, this is what you sign up for down the road. Learn more about the Power of the Gentle Personality.
Find a place that makes you feel comfortable: a laid back coffeeshop perhaps, or a park. You'll have an ally who will be there for you whatever happens.